Selalu sangat kita dengar kemurungan atau biasanya meroyan lepas bersalin..keadaan yang paling tidak menyenangkan bagi ibu-ibu selepas bersalin kan? Ada orang kata, tertekan, ada yang kata, gila..macam-macam..
Tahu tak, kemurungan ni bukan sahaja boleh berlaku kepada ibu? Bapa juga boleh mengalami kemurungan selepas bersalin walaupun yang melahirkan anak tu si Ibu hehe
The researchers analyzed 43 studies of 28,004 fathers that looked at paternal depression between the first trimester and the first year of the babies’ life. Of these, 10.4% of dads were depressed. By contrast, 4.8% of men in general population are depressed.-here
Kalau ibu, kita biasa lihat dia menangis, meratap, kadang2 stress tak bertempat, murung, tak gembira, menyampah dekat baby baru lahir tu, kdang2 tak hiraukan bayi menangis..ada lagi macam2 simptom yang lebih teruk..
Macam mana pulak simptom dikalangan bapa ni? Adakah sama?
Symptoms of PND (postnatal depression) in men include:
- tiredness, headaches and pain
- irritability, anxiety and anger
- loss of libido
- changes in appetite
- feelings of being overwhelmed, out of control and unable to cope
- a tendency to take risks
- changes to sleep patterns, especially a lack of sleep
- feelings of isolation and disconnection from partner, friends or family
- withdrawal from intimate relationships and from family, friends and community life
- increased hours of work as a part of the withdrawal from family
- increased use of drugs or alcohol instead of seeking treatment for depression.
Note: paternal PND is still unrecognised in psychiatric diagnostic literature. It’s assumed that some of the symptoms of paternal PND are similar to those in maternal PND. But it’s believed that paternal PND is much more variable and inconsistent than maternal PND.
Apa yang menyebabkan berlakunya kemurungan?
Some factors that contribute to men experiencing PND are the same for women. Factors common to men and women can include:
- a lack of social and emotional support
- personality characteristics
- stress and changes in relationships (particularly the couple relationship)
- a lack of sleep
- loss and grief issues
- difficulty adjusting to the changes associated with the transition to parenthood
- unmet prenatal expectations
- a negative or traumatic birth experience (the way men experience childbirth might have some influence on their subsequent emotional wellbeing).
Other factors are specific to men. These can include:
- the impact of changing social roles for fathers in the family
- attitudes towards fatherhood and masculinity – men are less likely to talk about how they feel, and it’s important to them that they seem like they’re coping
- a change in family dynamics – some men might feel excluded from the parenting role or from the relationship with their partner, which can result in resentment towards the baby
- worries about extra responsibilities, financial burdens and managing the stress of work
- unmet expectations about having sex again in the early postnatal period
- pregnancy, particularly early on – this appears to be the most stressful period for a man in the transition to fatherhood. This might be because of the changes in his partner’s body, how supported and included he feels, concern about the impending changes to his life, and feelings of uncertainty about his role in caring for his partner
- a lack of opportunities to bond with the baby until after birth, unlike mothers, who can bond during the pregnancy.
Some men experience PND in conjunction with their partner’s depression, and studies have shown that maternal and paternal depression are highly correlated. Men report that their partner’s PND causes disruption in their lives and their relationship with their partner. Male partners can experience fear, confusion and a sense of helplessness that they’re unable to help the baby’s mother overcome her depression. They can also feel a sense of disconnection and alienation from their partner.
Ada tidaklah berniat nak mengulas panjang tentang ni..cukup dengan mengetahui simptom dan penyebab kemurungan ini boleh berlaku.
Kelahiran orang baru memang membahagiakan..tetapi pada masa yang sama, banyak perkara baru yang perlu dihadapi..jadi baik ibu atau ayah, masing2 ada peranan yang perlu dipenuhi..Kalau dah namanya berkeluarga, jadi kene sama2 pikul..ayah tak boleh asyik menharapkan ibu, ibu pon sama..masing2 perlu memahami pasangan..
Melahirkan anak bukan sesuatu yang mudah..ibu bertarung nyawa nak mengeluarkan seorang insan..besar pulak tu..hehe dan bukan sahaja kelahiran, malah proses mengandung, melahirkan, selepas bersalin, semuanya satu perkara baru..dan melibatkan emosi, keletihan..macam2..walaupun depression ni boleh berlaku dikalangan lelaki, tetapi ianya lebih kerap berlaku dikalangan ibu..maklum sajalah, wanita lebih beremosi..Jadi, bapa2, sila tough sket ye..bantu isteri anda..
Ibu juga janganlah membuli suami anda pulak..dengan alasan takut kene kemurungan..hihi tu mengada namanya..Jadi, work as a team, saling menyokong..InsyaAllah..sama2 tak kena kemurungan 😀